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ISBN 978-0-977017-6-6
"But I Don't Want Eldercare!"
is the recipient of a 2010 Caregiver Friendly Award and the JPX Media International Book Award in the category of Health and Aging.
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Groundbreaking Guide Offers Unique Strategies for Avoiding Parents’ Premature Dependency on Eldercare Services — and on Their Children

Terry Lynch tackles head-on our national obsession with the “decline and dependency are inevitable” themee.

SAN FRANCISCO, California – In this myth-shattering guide to aging in America, author Terry Lynch unveils a compelling and effective counterpoint to the traditional “caring for your aging parents” theme. “We have more control over the future than we realize,” says Lynch. “Dependency and the burden of caregiving are not inevitable – far from it. It is urgent that people understand why.”

A remarkable personal journey underlies Terry Lynch’s eye-opening “But I Don’t Want Eldercare!” ? Helping Your Parents Stay as Strong as They Can as Long as They Can, from his work with the White House Conference on individuals with disabilities, to a decade as his mother’s caregiver. Lynch’s approach to self-reliant aging is based on Eight Rules or “counter-myths” that Lynch says we must know in order to make the best possible decisions and avoid disastrous mistakes.

Lynch’s creative strategies, learned through years of trial and error, also set this book apart. “Many helpful books tell people what they should know and where to find it,” says Lynch. “I take it further by showing readers how to use this information to achieve sometimes unconventional goals. I find that my approach is liberating for older people and their families.” Lynch also draws on personal experience to provide compassionate and practical assistance to adult children who are already overwhelmed by their caregiving responsibilities.

“‘Caring for your parents’ implies passive acceptance of an inevitable decline and burden,” says Lynch. “My message is about vitality, hope, and control, even in difficult circumstances. Helping older people live as they wish is not just a good thing to do. If you do it right, your life will be easier and better, too.”

Lynch knows this because he has done it himself and helped many others do the same.

“I am filled with renewed hope,” said Pam Cord of Kindred Connection, a home-life assistance organization in Atlantic, Iowa. “Just the introduction will help me be a better daughter.” U.S. Senator Chris Dodd (D-CT) calls “But I Don’t Want Eldercare!” “a wise and informative guide to decisions that generate a sense of optimism, control, and better well-being.”

Terry Lynch Aging Strategies
was a finalist in the
Best of the Web 2012.


  • Terry is excited to be speaking at an international conference on self determination and aging in Glasgow, Scotland in March 2015.

    More information coming soon...
  • Terry was thrilled to collaborate on planning Wisconsin's first statewide conference on Self-Determination and Aging, held in June 2014.
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  • Terry Lynch was honored with a Fellowship by the United Kingdom's Centre for Welfare Reform.
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